The Ultimate Guide to Begin Your Emotional Healing in the New Year

Welcome to 2022 — it’s time to start healing your emotional wounds and reducing your stress in the new year.

Here are seven (7) simple and powerful things you can begin doing now to help your emotional healing.

This guide will take you through the necessary steps to begin strengthening your mental toughness and improving your wellbeing. So please, read on and get started NOW on your path to happiness and peace of mind.

It’s the new year and it’s time to think about things to change and ways to improve your life and health.

As you are looking at your list of resolutions and other things to change for the new year, your emotional healing should be at the top.

Processing your pain, changing your stress and facilitating your emotional healing will enable you to achieve all of your other goals for the new year and beyond.

Looking to improve a relationship? Your emotional healing will help you achieve deeper connection with those around you.

Looking to lose weight? Your emotional healing will help you shed pounds permanently.

Looking to deal with your daily stress much differently? Your emotional healing will empower you with greater resilience.

The list can go on and on. Meeting your underlying emotional needs will help you with all of the things you’re looking to improve and change.

You can become more aware of, have a deeper understanding of, and be empowered with tools to change your emotional thinking and behavior patterns.

And the changing of the calendar into the new year is a perfect time to begin or continue your emotional healing process.

Your healing process is a simple, but perhaps, not easy one. It will take time, focus and commitment. And it’s most effective if it’s wrapped in self-love and self care.

You’ll need to be kind and compassionate to yourself while you’re healing. It is a brave and courageous journey. You will be navigating through a sea of emotion, and sometimes the water can be very choppy.

Your healing is self-directed. You need not wait for anyone else around you to change to begin your healing process.

And stop with the blaming. Blaming others only gives away your power to heal. As you will feel more confident than ever before about what healing looks and feels like for you, you’ll need to readjust your thinking if blaming others is a primary crutch for you.

Here’s your step by step guide to processing your pain, reducing your stress and facilitating your healing.

1. You need to tell your story. Processing your pain starts with giving voice and value to your struggles. Whether it’s one on one in a safe relationship, a support group, or therapy, by sharing your story you will be able to make sense of what’s happened to you. Make sure you tell your story to someone who listens with understanding, acceptance and respect. You need to feel safe while you share your experiences. You can even tell your story in small doses at different times to different people as you want to make sure that by opening up, you’re not triggered or re-traumatized.
2. You need to level up your self-regulation and self-care strategies. Your journey of emotional healing will be — wait for it — an emotional one. You will need various and numerous ways to be attuned to your needs and have tools to meet those needs to help you stay calm and focused throughout your healing process. By “upping your game” of mind-body strategies, you’ll be better able to meet your needs when you get emotionally cooking.
3. You need to unlearn some things about yourself. Your brain (like everyone’s brain) is wired for bias. You experience everything in life through the lenses of your past experiences and relationships. You have a filter formed by your values and beliefs that affects the way you perceive what’s happening to you and how you interact with others. You can “open” these filters and consider the origins of your values and beliefs and build upon them, or change them, with new awareness and understanding.
4. You need to be more self-aware and be ready for lots of “a-ha” moments. Your awareness of how your past struggles and stress impacts who you are currently — that is, how you think, how you feel and how you behave — will empower you to heal faster. Also, you can better understand how the stress and mood swings you feel each day can potentially trigger any previous unresolved emotional trauma or stress. You can stop the downward spiral of negative thinking and feelings.
5. You need to change your thinking patterns. The way that you perceive, interpret, and process everything that happens to you during your day is affecting your process of healing. There is a difference between pain and suffering. Once you learn to control your thinking rather than your thinking controlling you, you will be able to heal. You can change the story you’re telling yourself each moment of each day. Mental strength and mental toughness are extremely valuable tools to help your healing.
6. You need to be self reflective and listen to feedback. Each step of your journey of healing will require self assessment and self reflection to be able to adjust to what’s needed to keep you focused on your healing. You will be receiving lots of feedback from others in various nonverbal and indirect and direct verbal ways. Listening to others does not mean all they have to say is accurate or valuable for you. Some of it may be hard to hear and dysregulate you emotionally. You’ll need to be able to process and integrate all of the self messaging and messages from others that you receive as part of your process of healing.
7. You need to improve your gut health. You have a second brain in your gut that helps process your emotions and stress response. Your gut brain is always communicating with the brain in your head and is responsible for messaging through your central nervous system. Improving your gut health will calm your nerves and reduce your stress, anxiety, fear, shame, guilt, depression or any other extreme emotion that weighs you down during your day. Everything about how and what you eat affects your gut health. When eating, are you sitting down and chewing your food properly? Do you drink enough water during the day? What does your sugar, salt, gluten, carbs, or dairy intake look like? Are you focused on your gut bacteria and microbiomes? Is elimination a smooth process for you? All of it matters and affects your moods and stress.

When you focus on your emotional healing, you are focusing on meeting your underlying needs that cause your unhealthy thoughts, feelings and behaviors. Meet the needs, change the behavior.

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